I don't understand why miscarriage is such a taboo subject, why it's one of "silent suffering," especially now that my wife and I now sadly share in it, one that affects countless women daily.

We knew that in telling some friends so early about our pregnancy, that we ran a certain risk. But we knew our friends who shared in our joy would also share in our suffering.

Below is a letter that my dear wife Christe wrote in response to a blog about this oh-so-difficult matter. I wanted to share it with you because we've discovered that sharing hurts helps with healing... for all involved hopefully.

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Dear Karen,

I am a friend of ___. I read on her page sometime last week where she had commented on a note that you had written. I went to the note and read about your heavenly babies, secretly hoping I would not have to endure the pain you spoke of, as I was 6 1/2 weeks pregnant at the time. A few days later, I began spotting and on Sept 6, I miscarried our baby having carried him or her for 7 1/2 weeks. I am so very sad but I feel so encouraged by your note and the fact that our heavenly babies are in heaven praising our God, getting a head start on what we were all created to do.

I went on to read tonight about how you have named all your babies in heaven, and I knew that was something we needed to do. I have always wanted to name a child Judah but knew because we already have a Josiah that the name Judah was probably out. I could just hear him saying, "I am the king of you!" (You probably remember where Josiah is the boy king of Judah.)

When I read where you named a child Judah because it meant "Praise," I felt in my spirit that was to be the name of our child as well. I know that the only way to get through this time is to praise God even more. I feel closer to my baby knowing that we can join in praising God together...me here on Earth, and my baby in God's presence.

My parents have taught me to thank God in ALL things, good or bad. That can be soooo hard at times. I can truly say that I am grateful for the deeper desire to praise God that this hurt has brought me and for the motivation to cling less to this world and more to our heavenly home. I look forward to the day I join my little Judah in heaven praising our awesome God together in His presence.

Thank you for sharing your hurts because they have helped to start healing mine.

God Bless You,
Christe Mirikitani

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He comforts us in all our troubles. Now we can comfort others when they are in trouble. We ourselves have received comfort from God. We share the sufferings of Christ. We also share his comfort.
2 Corinthians 1:4-5